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Wording & Quotes for your Wedding Invitations


On this page:
your names
| the next line | guest names | the date | venues | rsvp details
children | gifts | wishing well poems | love quotes

The Use of Names:

Things to consider -
Will you be using your full names (more formal) or first names only (less formal, but still commonly used). The benefit of using surnames is perhaps that if the bride is taking the groom's surname then her family know what her new surname is (and how to spell it!)

Jack & Jill
invite you to join them in celebrating the marriage

Jack Jones & Jill Smith
invite you to join them in celebrating the marriage

Do you want to include your parents or families? Do you want their names, or an all-encompassing "together with their parents/families" before or after your names. If parents are contributing financially their names are usually on the invites, though it may be nice to include them regardless. You can have their names or Mr & Mrs -

Mr & Mrs M. Smith
together with
Mr & Mrs A. Brown
invite you to join them in celebrating the marriage of their children
Jill & Jack

Jill & Jack
together with their parents
Bob and Mary Smith
John and Jane Brown
invite you to join them in celebrating their marriage

Jill & Jack
together with their parents/families
invite you to join them in celebrating their marriage

If the bride's parents are hosting the wedding you could write:

Mr & Mrs M. Smith
invite you to join them in celebrating the marriage of their daughter
Jill Mary
Jack Michael Jones
(perhaps also) son of Mr & Mrs J. Jones

If the parents are divorced you can separate the names (eg. Mr Martin Smith & Mrs Jan Brown together with...)

Or if one parent has passed away and you want to include their name you could have "Mr Martin Smith & the late Mrs Jan Smith together with..."

The Next Line:

Here are a few traditional options:

  • invite
  • warmly invite
  • request the presence of ...
  • request the honour of the presence of ...
  • request the pleasure of the company of ...
  • invite you to share in their joy as ...
  • to join them in celebrating their wedding
  • to join us in celebrating our marriage
  • to join them in celebrating their union of marriage
  • to join them in a celebration of love

A common mistake is to have "...request the pleasure of Guest Name..." - you don't request the "pleasure" of a person, but the pleasure of their company. So you can have "request the pleasure of the company of Guest Name" or simply "request the company of Guest Name".

You can also rephrase the following to suit:

  • Love fills a lifetime, and a lifetime begins this hour when the two of us

  • Because you have shared in our lives by your friendship and love, we invite

  • With joyous hearts we invite you to attend our wedding

  • Invite you to share in their love and happiness as they exchange vows of marriage and begin their new life together

  • Come celebrate with us as we exchange marriage vows

  • This day our hearts are joined as one. Share with us this new beginning, the first day of our life together

  • We invite you to be with us as we begin our new life together

  • Share with us this day of new beginnings

  • ...have chosen the first day of their new life together as [date]

  • Love fills a moment, A moment fills a lifetime, A lifetime begins eternity, And our eternity begins here, at the wedding of...

Guest Names

You can either leave space for a printed line where you can handwrite guest names, or we can print those for you. If you would like names printed on the invitations please provide a list of names as you want them to appear on the invitations. A list in an email or Word document is fine, without numbers is preferred. If using Excel please put the names in one column as you want them to appear, eg. guests "Jack & Jill" in one column together. There is a small charge to cover the time spent setting up a mail merge to print all your guest names on the invitations (regardless of the quantity of invitations you're after).


The Date:

Most invitation we do are formatted like this (or for simplicity you could remove the "on" and "at"):

on Saturday 27 March 2013
at 3.00 pm

Or written in full:

on Saturday the twenty-seventh of March, two thousand and thirteen
at three o'clock post meridian



It will be helpful for guests if you give them the address of the venue as well as the name - it will save them looking it up themselves. If you have the ceremony at one venue and the reception at another you can say "reception to follow at..." and make sure you include the time this is starting. Else if they are at the same venue it may be useful to have "reception to follow at the same venue" or similar so that guests know they are invited to the entire wedding celebration (not the ceremony only for example).

at Ceremony Venue
123 Street Address
Suburb, Town

with the reception to follow
at Reception Venue
123 Street Address
Suburb, Town


Reception to follow at the same venue


RSVP details:

Note that "RSVP" is the abbreviation for the French phrase "Répondez S'il Vous Plaît" meaning "respond if you please". Having "please RSVP" is therefore doubling up on the word "please" so we would recommend either "Please reply by..." or "RSVP by..." or "Kindly reply by..."

RSVP date: Keep in mind that you will be busy leading up to the wedding, and the RSVP date needs to give you enough time to do your seating chart etc amongst the other wedding tasks you still have to do.

Commonly couples put at the bottom of an invitation:
Please reply by [date] to
021 234 5678

Funny additions to the RSVP:

These four options with text boxes -
□ Accept with pleasure
□ Decline with regret
□ Accept with regret
□ Decline with pleasure

Add a line of: I promise to dance if you play....

If your venue doesn't already cater for it do you need to ask guests to advise any special dietary requirements for allergies etc.


Inviting Children:

This can be awkward but it doesn't need to be. I am sure any parent would understand why bridal couples choose either way about having children or not having children at their wedding. If an invitation is addressed to the whole family (parents and kids) it would be safe to assume the kids are invited too. However if the invitation was made out to only the parents they should assume the children aren't invited. This could be enough, though if you want to reiterate the point you could use one of the following phrases:

There are situations where some children are invited and others aren't. You could write "children's attendance by invitation only please" so those who aren't invited aren't offended.

If there are no children at all you could write "so that parents can have a more "relaxing" night we ask that our wedding is adult only."



Sometimes a wishing well poem (further down the page) is too much and a simple paragraph will suffice.

  • Presence over presents

  • We understand [overseas wedding location] is a distance to travel and for those who cannot attend the greatest gift we can receive is your continued love and friendship. For those attending, your presence at our wedding is the only gift we require.

  • We appreciate the effort required for guests to be able to join us in beautiful [overseas wedding location] for our special day, and your presence is present enough. For those who do still wish to celebrate with a gift, a contribution to our wishing well would be gratefully accepted.

Or for weddings that don't require travel you may still want to ask for cash but without the wishing well poem, in this case you could use something like -

  • While we would be honoured to receive any gift from you...
    ...a contribution towards our [honeymoon/home] would be very much appreciated
    ...we would be very grateful for vouchers for [shop] to set up our new home
    ...we have a registry set up at [shop]

Another option: As we are travelling to [location] after the wedding, we don't have room for boxed gifts...


Wishing Well Poems:

A lot of couples have already set up their home when they decide to get married, so a gift registry for household items is not always ideal. For this reason some couples choose to have a wishing well at their wedding so that guests can give a cash gift instead. This is also great for couples who live overseas, or who are planning to travel after the wedding - it isn't always possible to carry all the gifts around the world. Asking people for money can be awkward, so wishing well poems offer a less direct (and also more fun) way of phrasing this. Over the years we've come across a few poems and these are shown below. Some are a bit more direct than others, but feel free to mix and match the poems, or use part of one of them if you prefer. Another option is to work the word "vouchers" in there instead of cash.

More than kisses so far we've shared,
our home has been made with Love and Care,
most things we need we've already got,
and in our home we can't fit a lot!

A wishing well we thought would be great,
(but only if you wish to participate).
A gift of money is placed in the well,
then make a wish… but shhh don't tell!

While enjoying our honeymoon we'll feel brand new,
we can look back and say it was all thanks to you!
And in return for your kindness, we're so sure,
that one day soon you will get what you wished for.

We don't want to offend but we have it all,
all household goods and so much more.
To save you shopping, sit back and rest,
a gift of currency is our request.

Don't go overboard and rob any banks
any little thing will make us smile with thanks.
We'll supply the wishing well,
just add the envelope and who can tell.

Now that we've saved you all the fuss,
we'd love for you to come and celebrate with us.

We know it's not traditional
it's not the way it's done,
but instead of a wedding list
we'd like a bit of sun.

The most important gift to us
is to have you share our day
but should you wish to contribute
in some other way,
then help us on our honeymoon
in our chosen paradise.

Some time for just the two of us
would be really nice.

As love is what this afternoon is all about
your presence is one we couldn’t celebrate without.
But should you insist that a gift is worth giving
a small saving for our future is a delightful blessing.

We are trying to grow a money tree
A difficult task you would agree
But it's something that we really need
Perhaps you would care to plant a seed.

We would like you to come to our wedding
and enjoy the day with us,
although it is our special day
we don't want that much fuss

Should you wish to buya gift
either material or cash in kind,
to be perfectly honest
we don't really mind.

It is your presence we want,
not the presents you give,
and being there we be the thing
we will remember as long as we both shall live.

We hope you can join us on our wedding day
to celebrate our wedding in a very special way.

Our wish is quite different
and a little hard to tell -
instead of shopping for a present
why not bless our wishing well?

If you'd rather shop its still alright by us
we just though by giving you this option
it would save a lot of fuss.

Soon you will hear our wedding bell
As friends and family wish us well.
Our household thoughts are not brand new,
We have twice the things we need for two.

Since we have our share of dishes and bedding
we're having instead a wishing well wedding.
So instead of hunting for that special dish
a well is supplied for a monetary wish.

But more important we ask of you,
Your prayers of love and blessings too!

We've been together for many years now
and at last we've decided to make that big vow.
Our worldly possessions they do us just fine
so our wedding gift list is only one line.

A present of travel is all we require
to grant us the honeymoon we both desire.
When you are with us to share our big day,
a wishing well we will have there on display.

Donate to our travels, that would be great,
but only if you wish to participate.

We've been together for nearly ... years,
and in that time collected so many wares.
We have towels, sheets and plates,
we have a toaster and kettle,
with even a salt shaker, we're ready to settle!

But one thing we do need in our new house,
is a fabulous, comfortable, swish new couch!
So if you would like to give a gift we will use,
please give us cash - the amount you can choose!

For those that would like to bring us a package,
There is a register at [shop] thats easy to manage.
We hope that has saved you a lot of fuss,
so you can spend your time celebrating with us!

For those of you who wish to give
please try to keep it light.
If giving cash is not your thing
we understand your plight.

A gift register has been set up,
the card we have included,
but if you want to choose your own
don’t think you have intruded.

Please remember the important thing
that we just want to say,
It is not the presents but your presence
we would like at our wedding day


Because at first we lived in sin
we've got the sheets and a rubbish bin.
A gift from you would be swell
how about a donation to our wishing well

On the road to married life
we've collected all we need to be husband and wife.
The honeymoon, however, is another thing
we had to choose between it and the diamond ring.
So your donation will be appreciated in every way
as it will help send us on a romantic holiday.

We made the commitment some time ago
that together through life we were destined to go,
we purchased our furniture, linen and bedding,
in the fulfilling years leading up to our wedding.

We are blessed to have you with us
when all our dreams come true,
so please know that 'presence' over 'presents'
will certainly do.

If we are honoured with a gift from you
along with wishing us well,
 you can pop a little monetary token
into to our wedding wishing well.

They have their dishes and towels for two
they have pots and pans and oven mitts too.
So what do you get for the Bride & Groom
whose house is setup in every room?

Their house needs repairs and some upgrades too
But you cannot register for carpet and glue.
If you were thinking of giving a gift,
to help us on our way.
a gift of cash towards our house,
would really make our day.

However, if you prefer to purchase a gift,
feel free to surprise us in your own way.

Whilst in a foreign land,
(Brides Name) had many adventures grand,
none of which could ever compare,
to the wonderful love
that she and (Grooms Name) share.
The couple will marry
whilst traveling once more,
and her family shall come to foreign shore.
(Bride) and (Groom) have considered the options,
as guests bearing gifts,
will come to considerable exertions.
And the airline restrictions will also apply,
to the bride and the groom when home they must fly.
In the place of a gift with traditional style,
a paper gift would bring many a smile.
A gift of paper has many a meaning,
it may be cash,
or a voucher for their favourite store,
the promise of a special favour,
Whenst the couple return
to settle into their lives
as husband and wife.
Many thanks for your consideration,
in receiving this request,
as surely you will realise
it's definitely for the best.

So what do you get for the bride and groom
whose house needs things in every room?
When shopping for a present please don't be rash
as there is always the option to just give cash!
We hope you don't find our request to be funny
but we really would appreciate a gift of money.

We've been together for a few years now
we have pots and pans and linen and towels,
we have glasses and toasters, really quite a few
so instead of more gifts, we suggest this to you.

If it doesn't offend and it won't send you running
what we would really appreciate is quite simply money.
We know choosing gifts can be such a pain
And this way there is no chance of bringing the same.

We made a commitment some time ago
that together through life we were destined to go.
We purchased our furniture, linen and bedding,
in the fulfilling years leading up to our wedding.
What else we might need is not easy to foresee,
But we will be blessed by your gift on our money tree.

Now we are to be Mr & Mrs
we don't need a wedding list of dishes
we have two kettles, two toasters, two microwaves
we require a house for which we have to save.

If you would like to give us a gift,
a cheque or vouchers would give us a lift
we like to think of it as our 'wishing well'
which will be filled with your love, we can tell.

To save you looking, shopping or buying
here is an idea, we hope you like trying!
Come to our wedding, to wish us both well
and make some use of our little wishing well.

Just put some money into a card,
now make a wish...see that wasn't hard!
Now that we have saved you, all that fuss
we hope you will come, and celebrate with us.

Please don't be offended at this type of request,
as our day will be complete having you as our guest.

Our home is quite complete - we've been together long,
so please consider our request and do not take us wrong.
A delicate request it is, we hope you understand,
please play along as it will give our married life a hand.

The tradition of the wishing well is one that's known by all,
go to the well, toss in a coin and as the coin does fall
make a wish upon that coin and careful as you do
as the well's tradition goes, your wishes will come true.

So on this special day of ours, the day that we'll be wed.
Don't hunt for special gifts but give money instead.
As you drop the envelope with money great and small,
Remember make a wish as you watch the money fall.

Alas! Friends and family, in sin we've been living
and if you're not yet sure what you plan on giving
we have dozens of towels and a toaster or two
plenty of cutlery and glassware too.

Some memories to last forever
is what these newlyweds will truly treasure.
We dream of visiting faraway lands
so come to you all, begging bowl in hand!

The gift we require needs no wrapping or tags
but we hope it will help us to pack our bags
and fly away on our first trip together
a honeymoon to remember forever.

Thinking of a gift for the bride and groom...
We have all we need in almost every room.

There are two things that we would love,
some household items to be proud of.
A dining room table would be great
and a dryer for the laundry, our new best mate.

Farmers vouchers we are suggesting to you,
with hope this makes shopping less stressful too.
No matter what you decide will be neat,
and make our new home feel complete.

These two love birds have it all,
family, friends and so much more.

If a gift you intend to help their nest,
and you need some assistance, may we suggest,
a donation in their little bird cage,
to assist them along on their next life stage.

Envelopes will be left in the reception room,
to bestow a gift upon the Bride and Groom.

Please find within this poem, information just for you,
with some rules and regulations, that we both insist you do.

The first one is vital, if you're to be our guest,
To eat, drink and be merry, or do your very best.
The second is an order, so don't bring two left feet,
as when the evening comes around,
you MUST dance to the beat.
The third rule can be broken, we really do not mind,
but if you choose to follow it, thank you for being kind.

We've been together for a few years,
and have a lovely home,
so there are lots of items, that we already own.
So if your thoughts were on a gift, your presence will suffice,
but if you really feel the need, then money would be nice.

The choice is really up to you, and we would like to say,
we hope you come, enjoy yourselves,
and have a lovely day.

These two love birds bought their nest,
and took pride in furnishing it with zest.
They bought towels, sheets, pans and pots
so now their nest doesn’t need a lot.

If you are after some inspiration
to save you from all that perspiration,
a gift of money you can afford
is just what we need you can be assured.

A bird cage will be on display
for your gifts and anything you’d like to say.
Most of all we'd love you there on our special date,
to share in our happiness and help us celebrate.

Two hearts will come together as one,
We hope you will be there to join in the fun.
A gift registry we thought would be great
but only if you wish to participate.

If choosing a gift is a hard thing to do
then our wishing well may be perfect for you.
Look for the suitcase at the reception
to leave a token of your affection.

However most of all, what we really request,
is for you to be there and celebrate,
as our very special wedding guest.

To save you looking, shopping, or buying
here is an idea, we hope you like trying -
in lieu of gifts we have a great deal,
pay for your dinner at $... a meal.

Please don't be offended at this type of request,
as our day will be complete having you as our guest.


Love Quotes:

  • Together, we wrote our names in the sand and the waves washed them away, so we will write them in our hearts and there they will stay.

  • This day I will marry my best friend, the one I laugh with, live for, love.

  • Two lives, two hearts, joined together in friendship, united forever in love.

  • Just like a page out of a fairytale, the storybook romance comes true

  • I love you not only for what you are, but for what I am when I am with you. I love you not only for what you have made of yourself, but for what you are making of me. I love you for the part of me that you bring out. (Elizabeth Barrett Browning)

  • Come celebrate, dance and sing, laugh and love, as we join our lives.

  • We will walk side-by-side hand-in-hand...forever.

  • This day our hearts are joined as one. Share with us this new beginning - the first day of our life together.

  • Love doesn't make the world go round. Love is what makes the ride worthwhile. (Franklin P. Jones)

  • Grow old along with me!  The best is yet to be... (Robert Browning)

  • One does not fall into love; one grows into love, and love grows in him. (Karl Menninger)

  • I have found the one my soul loves. (Song of Solomon)

  • Words were spoken amidst a soothing tide, as paradise proclaimed two souls will forever be side by side.

  • Immature love says: 'I love you because I need you.' Mature love says 'I need you because I love you.' (Erich Fromm)

  • Love is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. (Henry Louis Mencken)

  • Years ago when they were young, two lovers were brought together as one. Now and forever, partners in life under [palm trees swaying], they'll be husband and wife.

  • Love is an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired. (Robert Frost)

  • At the touch of love, everyone becomes a poet. (Plato)

  • The rose speaks of love silently, in a language known only to the heart. (Unknown)

  • A perfect shell is a gift from the sea, as beautiful and unique as our love is to be.

  • Love is a friendship set to music. (E. Joseph Cossman)

  • A heart that loves is always young. (Greek Proverb)

  • On this day I will marry my friend. The one who shares my dreams, life and love. (Unknown)

  • To get the full value of joy you must have someone to divide it with. (Mark Twain)

  • Now join your hands, and with your hands your hearts. (William Shakespeare)

  • Love is composed of a single soul inhabiting two bodies. (Aristotle)

  • An answered prayer he is to me; My greatest blessing she'll always be. And so this day we'll pledge our love in front of family, friends and God above.

  • There is only one happiness in life, to love and be loved. (George Sand)

  • In true love the smallest distance is too great, and the greatest distance can be bridged. (Hans Nouwens)

  • Love is life and if you miss love, you miss life. (Leo Buscaglia)

  • What lies behind us, and what lies before us are tiny matters compared to what lies within us. (Ralph Waldo Emerson)

  • A happy marriage is a long conversation which always seem too short. (Andre Maurois)